Because I’ve been thinking of these all day.
– Any scene that’s been around for more than five years or so is liable to get into a sine-wave state of oscillation between ‘The scene is dying! We must recruit new people!’ and ‘New people are coming into the scene! I liked it better without them!’ If you’re really lucky the flashpoints will be people’s taste in music or preference for clothing studded with oddly shaped lumps of dayglo foam, rather than the seismic shudders over institutionalised racism and sexism that are shaking the SFF world right now.
– If you charge money for a service, people will expect you to behave in a reasonably businesslike manner. Whether you’re running a small business selling crafts, a festival, or a music label, being part of a tribe that the mainstream world considers a bit odd does not exempt you from reasonable criticism or harsh feedback.
– If you want a good reason for not fostering the ‘But Z is one of us, so if you pick on her, you’re not supporting the scene!’ attitude mentioned above, you might want to consider that it creates an atmosphere where con artists thrive like cockroaches in high humidity.
– People probably don’t hate you. There are only so many hours in the day, and hating people takes energy. It’s possible someone is holding a grudge against you because you criticised their habit of wearing ripped-up fishnets on their arms in 1995, but it’s far more likely they just failed to consider you because they were busy wrapped up in their own stuff, whatever that is.
– Life is too short to go for group meals with people you can’t stand.
– If you want people to come up and talk to you, give them something to talk about. I usually wear something bizarre on my head.
– Do not judge people by how many piercings they have, unless you are adjudicating ‘Person With Most Piercings’ for the Guinness Book Of Records or similar.
– People who say ‘Oh, this? I found it in a charity shop’ probably spent a lot of time poking through racks of unappetising polyester before they found that thing, and probably customised it to hell and back after bringing it home.
– Observing human nature will always give you something to write about.